About a month and a half ago a co-worker of mine and my husband’s mentioned to him that I reminded her of a character in the movie “Frozen”, but couldn’t remember her name. Not having seen the movie at that point, neither of us knew who she could be talking about, and, of course, I was very curious. I am always concerned about what people think of me. Am I friendly enough? Am I too friendly? Am I annoyingly exhuberant? Am I too reserved? Do I talk too much? Do I not say enough? I worry endlessly. It’s definitely a flaw. Anyway, as soon as I had a minute and the kids were in bed, I went to Google to do some research. I found that there were 2 leads: Queen Elsa and Princess Anna. Anna was described as fearless, spunky, and awkward, while her sister, the Snow Queen, was described as vulnerable, complicated, and misunderstood. Hmmmm….Well, of course I’d say I’m no more vulnerable, complicated, or misunderstood than most people, and so spunky, fearless, and awkward would fit me better. She must mean Anna. I even took to Facebook to ask those who’d seen the movie which character I would most remind them of if they had to pick. My aunt and a former student both answered that it would be Anna, because of her spunky personality. However, after finally talking to the co-worker, I was told that it was Elsa who reminded her of me. Elsa? The complicated one? This is how she is described on another online site: “Never in Disney history have we had a female character as conflicted and complicated as Elsa…Elsa is not, like other princesses, happy go lucky. Disney has created a dark, mature, central female character, whose greatest challenge is finding acceptance–not just from others–but from herself as well.” Holy cow, what???
I feel I must rewind a bit. Years ago, while in high school, I was named Miss Congeniality in a competition. Miss Congeniality is not dark and conflicted! I have also been called perky most of my life. Sure, perky can be annoying to some people, but that’s besides the point. Isn’t perky like happy go lucky?
My mind was reeling. Oh man…Do other people see me this way? Will they watch “Frozen” and say the same thing? Am I a snow queen? I was a Snow Carnival princess one year in high school, but that was really different. The co-worker recently asked me if I agreed with her. I said I didn’t. I said I didn’t see it. After hearing the defensiveness in my voice she then said, “Oh, no, I mean in appearance. And when she’s nice. The nice Elsa. Not when she’s mean.” This co-worker is a really nice lady, and I don’t think she meant to cause me any worry or panic, but it certainly threw me for a loop. I guess I need to just “Let It Go”…!
Here’s Elsa below and me below that. I don’t see it.